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Hi Reader, Between my husband's work schedule shifting around him lately, our community volunteer commitments ramping up for fall, and my own Tuesday choir practice, dinner has become the one thing I genuinely don't have extra energy left for by the time evening rolls around. And that's before my GI issues decide to flare and toss the whole plan out anyway. So this month, I stopped trying to plan meals and started building a rotation instead. A handful of dinners I already know how to make, leaning almost entirely on the slow cooker, air fryer, and electric grill so nothing requires standing over a hot stove in this heat. No new recipes to figure out, no decisions to make at 5 pm when I have nothing left to give it. The other piece was letting go of the idea that every dinner has to match. Some nights that's a quesadilla, an air fryer flatbread pizza, a can of soup, or microwave mac and cheese, and I've stopped needing to justify any of it. My husband helps when I need it, and I've borrowed a phrase from parenting circles that's helped more than I expected: fed is best. Some nights, that really is enough. None of this is more structure. It's less, and it's been a relief. If you're in a similarly stretched season right now, I wrote up the whole rhythm on the blog, rotation, tools, and all, in case it helps you too. |
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Hi Reader, Can I tell you something? The money side of chronic illness might be the heaviest thing we carry and the thing we talk about least. I know how it feels to put off opening a bill because you do not have the energy to face what is inside. I know the quiet math, the guilt over a smaller paycheck, and the way the holidays can make all of it louder. And I know how lonely it gets when it seems like nobody else is doing that math. You are not bad with money, and you are not alone in this....
Hi Reader, When someone asks how you've been, how much of your answer is edited? I don't mean lying. I mean the quick pass most of us run before we speak: this version for a coworker, that one for the in-laws, the real one for the two or three people who've seen us on a bad day. That editing takes energy, and it's energy we were already short on. I rewrote an older post about chronic illness and identity to get at this. It covers why "don't let your illness define you" can make things...
Hi Reader,A reader reached out and let me know the link to the blog post wasn't working - sorry about that! I've fixed the error and you can access the post now through this link:Letting Go of Expectations With Chronic Illness Without Feeling Like You're Giving Up Thanks for your patience and understanding, April SmithWebsite | Facebook | Bluesky | Pinterest