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Why I don’t practice gratitude the way I used to
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​ Hey Reader, I’ve been thinking a lot about how the world talks about gratitude—especially this time of year. It always seems to show up in neat little quotes and posts that say things like I don’t know about you, but when I’m navigating symptoms, appointments, side effects, and just trying to get through the week in one piece… that kind of messaging feels disconnected at best. At worst, it feels like one more way to make me feel like I’m doing something wrong for struggling. So I started doing something different. Not performative gratitude. Not a journal full of things I don’t really feel. This week’s blog post is one I’ve been holding onto for a while. It’s a gentle one. Honest. Not preachy. Just real. If you’ve ever felt like you “should” be more grateful but haven’t had the capacity—or if the way people talk about gratitude just doesn’t line up with what you’re carrying—you might find some comfort in this one. Read the post here → 5 Simple Ways I Practice Gratitude When Life With Chronic Illness Feels Brutal​ ​ ​ And if you’re not in a space where gratitude feels possible right now, that’s okay too. You’re still allowed to be here. ​ Take care of your heart today, ​
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April Smith | The Thriving Spoonie
đź’ŞI create resources to help people adapt to living with chronic illness so they can thrive.
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